Any way, we started talking about our college experiences, mainly our living situations and learned that being in a co-ed living space (having guys living on the same floor as girls) seemed to have less drama than and floor only having girls living on it or only exclusively guys.
There was A LOT of drama between girls on my floor last year (something I really hope doesn't happen again). It wasn't any face-to-face confrontation, it was just a lot of things unsaid that created a bias and prejudice against a group of people that is not like yourself.
I basically got wrapped up into one group because of the fact that I'm more of a geek than a preppy outgoing guy-drama filled lifestyle.
I generally try to never cling onto a type of clique or anything of that sort. I'd rather remain unbiased and accept everyone for who they are.
But unfortunately I was stuck on a floor that had people who were less accepting of the other. I barely even said anything and yet I felt as though I was viewed as being someone I wasn't.
SO ANNOYING!!!
And then I heard about Carly's experience. And it's what I would have rather had.
There seemed to be no drama and clique-like behavior from the people she lived with, even though there were some distinction between geeks and jocks. But they all got along. No one thought that they had to live up to some expectation of what society or others felt they had to. They were just themselves.
And that's when I started to really think that separating men and women creates even more drama than keeping them together. You'd think it'd be the opposite, but it's not!!!!
Maybe men and women are natural balancers and help tone down the drama that exists in exclusively one gender.
Having that co-ed living situation seemed to bring about enough diversity between peoples that no more than two people were alike. And that seemed really nice.
Well, here's hope to a better new year! (even though I still have to wait like a month)
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